Rituals of self-nourishment are the invisible binds that hold our lives together, without them we begin to unravel and fall apart.

Self-care isn’t selfish – it is essential. 

In taking care of ourselves, we are better able to care for others. I like to think of self-care as filling our glass. When our glass is replenished our hearts become full. This loving kindness then over-spills towards others. When our glass is empty, we have little left to give.

Self-care teaches us to fill our own glass first so we can give others the best of us, rather than the rest of us.

6 self-nurturing tips you can begin to use today to fill your glass:

1. Set healthy boundaries for yourself and others 

I struggled with this concept for a long time. I was your classic ‘people-pleaser’ and found myself agreeing to things I didn’t want to do. I also allowed people to consistently disrespect my values, and forgave and forgave and forgave. But knowing when to say ‘Yes’ and when to say ‘No’ can be the difference between feeling aligned or feeling off balance.

Healthy boundaries are an essential part of self-care. When you respect yourself, your time and your health you teach others to do the same. You can still be generous and kind without becoming a continuous ‘go to’ or doormat for others.

Before you agree or disagree to something, sit with your feelings. Choose ‘alignment before action’ so that your response is authentic and true to your wishes. Be clear about your thoughts and feelings. Others will appreciate your honesty, and if they don’t – well they may not be the best company to keep anyway. Which leads me to my next tip…

2. Surround yourself with good company

I used to be too polite and scared of rocking the boat. Even if someone offended me, I’d still find it hard to say ‘no’ and give up my time for that person. Today, I am much more selective with who I choose to spend my time with.

It takes practice to navigate relationships. Each person we meet teaches us more about ourselves, our boundaries and our core values. At times, those boundaries will be tested. Release anyone who continuously disrespects your values, wish them well, and move on.

In time, you will learn to forgive and release any relationships no longer nourish you. This will leave you with more time and energy to cherish those that do.

If you stay true to yourself and maintain healthy relationships through open, honest communication, you will naturally surround yourself with like-minded people who emanate the true vibe of your tribe. Be the type of person you wish to meet.

3. Make health a priority

Health is wealth. We rarely realise how important our health is until we lose it. Many claim they lack the time or money to be healthy, yet squander precious time and resources engaging in activities that aren’t nourishing; fast foods, reality television, gossiping, retail therapy, working longer hours than necessary – these are just a few of the ways we ‘zone out’.

We are all guilty of indulging from time to time. Hey – who can resist an episode of The Kardashians? The idea is that we maintain balance and don’t allow unhealthy habits to consume too much of our lives.

Vow today to take better care of yourself. Eat well and nourish your body – hydrate it, exercise it, stretch it, move it and relax it. Your body is your sacred home – treat it well.

4. Trust your intuition and honour yourself

One of the ways we can honour ourselves is by trusting in our intuition. Our inner wisdom connects and guides us to our higher self. If we neglect to listen to our truth, we become unsettled, confused and anxious.

Honour yourself by listening to your hearts whispers. In doing so, you will begin to navigate life with more grace and ease.

To differentiate between your intuition and your ego, feel for the answer in your heart rather than in your head. You can tune into yourself more by engaging in peaceful activities such as walking, spending time in nature, yoga, meditation and by simply being with yourself.

5. Be gentle on yourself

We are often our own worst critics. For a long time, I’d beat myself up for not getting things perfect. Today, I much prefer to remember that it’s about ‘progress, not perfection.’ Life is rarely ever perfect, and mistakes will happen.

Promise to treat yourself as you would a small child. Accept that you will make errors and forgive yourself for any flaws. Speak to yourself in tones that reassure and uplift, rather than berate and chastise.

We are all here to learn and navigate life together. It becomes much easier when we practise unconditional love and compassion for all, including ourselves. So be gentle on yourself and others.

6. Laugh and play

Let us not forget that life is for living, so make it a priority to live, laugh and love a little more each day.

Life is full of diverse people and rich experiences. Most of life’s true treasures are free; embrace someone you love, sip on a warm cup of tea, dance like no-one is watching, crank up your favourite tune, walk bare foot on the grass, and belly laugh with loved ones!

You can nourish your soul by carving out time each day for laughter and play. Nobody ever on their death bed said: ‘I wish I’d worked more…’

Be kind towards yourself, and remember not to take life too seriously!

In love & light,

Hayley xx

What are your favourite ways to ‘fill your cup?’ I’d love to hear your comments below!