A Time To Every Purpose

Nothing is promised. Not even time. The only thing we ever really have is Now – this moment. This may account for all of the frantic grasping and scrambling we do in our lives. We fear we have no time. But worry never serves to get us ahead. Quite the opposite. It robs us of the only time we’ll ever have – the present.

When we try to do or have it all at once, we soon lose momentum. So take your time and breathe. Choose one thing to do and do it well. It is what you do now that counts.

How fully immersed are you in this moment? When out having coffee with a friend, are you delighting in the exchange or thinking of the lawns that need mowing at home? When you are mowing the lawns, are you savouring the scent of the freshly cut grass or wishing you were out having coffee with a friend?

Too often we are distracted from what we are doing and wishing our time away on thoughts of next next next.

Slow down. Know that you have time. Trust that it is alright to move at a gentler pace. Supportive doors will open for you when you surrender control to what is. Let go. Refrain from trying to control outcomes.

Yes – it is important we dedicate time to working on our dreams, yet we must also balance this with time for play, time alone, as well as time spent with loved ones and friends. In doing so, we see the world with new eyes.

Today, breathe and enjoy the moment. Have faith that there is ‘a time to every purpose under the heaven.’

In love & light,

Hayley xx 

 


The Little Things

 

When I look back over my life and the moments I cherish most, it’s often the little things which have had the biggest impact…

…when Dad told me he was proud of me (I worked in retail at the time, nothing extravagant – but he was proud all the same); Mum’s sentimental gifts (a handmade family scrapbook, a bracelet with Dad’s handwriting on it, a locket containing a cutting of his hair – all of which I will cherish always); being asked to be bridesmaid at my best friends wedding; the letters, gifts and ‘thank you’s’ I’ve received from the children I’ve taught over the years; each day I get to ‘do life’ with my deliciously thoughtful man; walking hand in hand, a warm embrace, heartfelt words of love, laughing until my cheeks ache; simple moments of peace and pleasure…

All of these ‘little things’ are the true meaning of a rich and fulfilling life.

Today, take note of the ‘little things’, because they really are the big things.

In love & light,

Hayley xx

 

 


6 Self-Care Tips

Rituals of self-nourishment are the invisible binds that hold our lives together, without them we begin to unravel and fall apart.

Self-care isn’t selfish – it is essential. 

In taking care of ourselves, we are better able to care for others. I like to think of self-care as filling our glass. When our glass is replenished our hearts become full. This loving kindness then over-spills towards others. When our glass is empty, we have little left to give.

Self-care teaches us to fill our own glass first so we can give others the best of us, rather than the rest of us.

6 self-nurturing tips you can begin to use today to fill your glass:

1. Set healthy boundaries for yourself and others 

I struggled with this concept for a long time. I was your classic ‘people-pleaser’ and found myself agreeing to things I didn’t want to do. I also allowed people to consistently disrespect my values, and forgave and forgave and forgave. But knowing when to say ‘Yes’ and when to say ‘No’ can be the difference between feeling aligned or feeling off balance.

Healthy boundaries are an essential part of self-care. When you respect yourself, your time and your health you teach others to do the same. You can still be generous and kind without becoming a continuous ‘go to’ or doormat for others.

Before you agree or disagree to something, sit with your feelings. Choose ‘alignment before action’ so that your response is authentic and true to your wishes. Be clear about your thoughts and feelings. Others will appreciate your honesty, and if they don’t – well they may not be the best company to keep anyway. Which leads me to my next tip…

2. Surround yourself with good company

I used to be too polite and scared of rocking the boat. Even if someone offended me, I’d still find it hard to say ‘no’ and give up my time for that person. Today, I am much more selective with who I choose to spend my time with.

It takes practice to navigate relationships. Each person we meet teaches us more about ourselves, our boundaries and our core values. At times, those boundaries will be tested. Release anyone who continuously disrespects your values, wish them well, and move on.

In time, you will learn to forgive and release any relationships no longer nourish you. This will leave you with more time and energy to cherish those that do.

If you stay true to yourself and maintain healthy relationships through open, honest communication, you will naturally surround yourself with like-minded people who emanate the true vibe of your tribe. Be the type of person you wish to meet.

3. Make health a priority

Health is wealth. We rarely realise how important our health is until we lose it. Many claim they lack the time or money to be healthy, yet squander precious time and resources engaging in activities that aren’t nourishing; fast foods, reality television, gossiping, retail therapy, working longer hours than necessary – these are just a few of the ways we ‘zone out’.

We are all guilty of indulging from time to time. Hey – who can resist an episode of The Kardashians? The idea is that we maintain balance and don’t allow unhealthy habits to consume too much of our lives.

Vow today to take better care of yourself. Eat well and nourish your body – hydrate it, exercise it, stretch it, move it and relax it. Your body is your sacred home – treat it well.

4. Trust your intuition and honour yourself

One of the ways we can honour ourselves is by trusting in our intuition. Our inner wisdom connects and guides us to our higher self. If we neglect to listen to our truth, we become unsettled, confused and anxious.

Honour yourself by listening to your hearts whispers. In doing so, you will begin to navigate life with more grace and ease.

To differentiate between your intuition and your ego, feel for the answer in your heart rather than in your head. You can tune into yourself more by engaging in peaceful activities such as walking, spending time in nature, yoga, meditation and by simply being with yourself.

5. Be gentle on yourself

We are often our own worst critics. For a long time, I’d beat myself up for not getting things perfect. Today, I much prefer to remember that it’s about ‘progress, not perfection.’ Life is rarely ever perfect, and mistakes will happen.

Promise to treat yourself as you would a small child. Accept that you will make errors and forgive yourself for any flaws. Speak to yourself in tones that reassure and uplift, rather than berate and chastise.

We are all here to learn and navigate life together. It becomes much easier when we practise unconditional love and compassion for all, including ourselves. So be gentle on yourself and others.

6. Laugh and play

Let us not forget that life is for living, so make it a priority to live, laugh and love a little more each day.

Life is full of diverse people and rich experiences. Most of life’s true treasures are free; embrace someone you love, sip on a warm cup of tea, dance like no-one is watching, crank up your favourite tune, walk bare foot on the grass, and belly laugh with loved ones!

You can nourish your soul by carving out time each day for laughter and play. Nobody ever on their death bed said: ‘I wish I’d worked more…’

Be kind towards yourself, and remember not to take life too seriously!

In love & light,

Hayley xx

What are your favourite ways to ‘fill your cup?’ I’d love to hear your comments below!

 

 

 


Life's Essentials

 

Whether a thought, a bad habit, a painful relationship or situation; ‘if it doesn’t nourish your soul – let it go.’ As part of September’s self-care, it’s important we take time to Spring clean our lives. For those of you in the Northern hemisphere, as the Autumn leaves begin to turn, you too, can turn over a new leaf.

Begin by asking a few simple questions; What am I lacking? What do I have ‘too much’ of? In what areas of my life do I feel an imbalance? Once we address our needs and the needs of those we love; we can begin to cultivate more peace, love, balance and joy in our lives.

I find it’s best to approach one aspect of our lives at a time. Whenever I’ve tried to overhaul my entire life in one go, I’ve become overwhelmed and created new imbalances as a result. A great place to start is through the process of letting go.

The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.

– Lin Yutang

Maybe you bring your work home with you? Or have a tendency to gossip too much? Do you drink or eat in excess when stressed? If it’s old, worn out beliefs, thought patterns and behaviours, or an accumulation of ‘things’ and relationships that no longer nourish your soul; as you say goodbye to the old and make space for the new, trust that in letting go, you can cultivate a loving, compassionate environment for all involved.

In love & light,

Hayley xx

 

 


Love Is The Great Miracle Cure

 

Yesterday I wrote in my journal; “Tomorrow is the first day of Spring here in Melbourne. A time for new beginnings. Self-care and self-love is the focus for September…”

I spent this morning taking care of myself. I have learnt the importance of self-care from many great teachers, but mostly from the incredible work of Louise L. Hay. So off I went on my morning walk, stopping to take photos of flowers and to pet some dogs along the way. When I arrived home, I spent half an hour stretching my body and going deeper with my yoga and meditation practice, then I wrote my morning pages… I don’t always get to spend my mornings this way, but when I do, I feel so much better. I have more energy to give others the best of me, instead of the rest of me.

As I hopped online to beginning blogging, it was then that I learned the news. Louise L. Hay, one of my greatest inspirations, had transitioned this morning, aged 90.

Many will know Louise as the pioneer for self-love and the founder of Hay House publishers. Her book ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ takes pride on my bookshelf, and is my go to book whenever I’m in need of a reminder of the power of our thoughts. Louise’s book has sold over 50 million copies worldwide and continues to bless the homes of many.

Today, as we remember Louise’s great work and the incredible healing she has contributed to our world, may we join together in love and harmony, and give thanks for her many beautiful blessings and teachings. Peace be with you.

“In the infinity of life where I am,
All is perfect, whole and complete,
I no longer choose to believe in old limitations and lack, I now choose to begin to see myself
As the Universe sees me — perfect, whole, and complete.”
― Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life

In love & light,

Hayley xx

 


3 Grand Essentials To Happiness In Life

Happiness is a state of mind; a state which can shift from pure contentment to complete dissatisfaction in any given moment. This change in perspective can be triggered by a number of outside circumstances seemingly out of our control; unexpected news, the loss of something dear, an ill-mannered interaction with a stranger…

At times our discomfort is prolonged and happiness can feel like a distant memory. I remember the overwhelming feeling of complete sorrow in the long months that followed my Dad’s death. I was a sinking ship. Afraid of marring others with my grief, I’d hide my devastation beneath a brave face, but on the inside I was an empty vessel lost at sea. If I knew then what I know now, I would advise my nineteen-year-old self to honour her feelings; to be unafraid of reaching out and asking for help.

If you are feeling bereft, try not to stuff down your emotions. Be kind to yourself and trust that this feeling will pass. It may not go away entirely, but as sure as the tides ebb and flow, so will your state of happiness. Nothing in life is constant. As rocky as the oceans may seem, the tides will settle in time. So don’t lose heart. It’s not your job to control the weather – life is unpredictable. But we can learn to navigate the storms, we can learn to stay afloat instead of drowning.

We can begin with the three essentials to happiness.

Something to do:

This could be as simple as petting your dog; making a start on a long neglected project or planting some vegetables to harvest in winter. Participating in life brings us back to the only moment we have – NOW. It is now that we are free from the binds of the past and worries about the future. For me, writing, walking in nature, and belly laughing with loved ones always brings me back to a state of gratitude for the moment I’m in.

Something to love:

At our core, we are pure, unbounded love. Therefore, not to love is a slow death to the soul. Yet many of us forget that we cannot give away what we don’t have. Love begins first with oneself. Not in a conceited self-righteous way, but in a way that is non-judgemental and self-accepting. When we truly love ourselves, we are able love others unconditionally. Make a promise each day to look in the mirror and say with deep compassion: “I love you.” Watch how that love flows outward to others.

Something to hope for:

Studies have shown that those who practice optimism and gratitude live longer, healthier lives. Hopeful individuals repeatedly show reduced levels of stress, anxiety and depression. Hope instills a sense of faith that everything will work out for our highest good. You don’t have to be religious to have faith in a higher power. You can have faith in yourself; faith in a loving Universe, faith in others, faith in a non-denominational Divine guidance. In short, faith and hope free us from the shackles of limiting beliefs, bringing a sense of peace to even the darkest of days.

Today, take the time to do something you love. Reflect and give thanks for this moment. Trust that everything is precisely as it is meant to be, and keep the faith.

In love & light,

Hayley xx

 


Be The Change.

Real change begins within. We must be willing to become what it is that we wish to see in our lives.

I have found that whenever my sense of inner peace is off balance, if ever I am met with difficult roadblocks along the way, there is usually a personal growth lesson I am failing to recognise. Did I waver momentarily from my authentic self? Have I communicated clearly my truth? Did I fail to recognise another’s perspective? Have I neglected my self-care practice?

Once we become aware of what’s going on on the inside, we can recognise the teachings that are being reflected to us in our outer world. Only then can we return our focus to the basic principles for a peaceful existence – acceptance; forgiveness; kindness; patience; love; joy; gratitude. The situation then usually resolves itself.

In today’s quote, Mahatma Gandhi, leader of the freedom independence and civil rights movement in India, reminds us that we must ‘be the change.’

If you crave more peace – be peaceful. Do you long for more love? Be more loving. If you wish to receive more abundance in life – give more. More happiness? Share your joy. The best way for us to experience a life of fulfillment is to be the change and lead by example. Our outer world always mirrors back to us the state of our inner world. The good news is, we have the power to change this. We have the power to shift our perceptions so that we can experience more of the love, joy, and abundance that is available to us.

Today, ‘be the change you wish to see in the world.’

In love & light,

Hayley xx

 


'Thank You' Is Enough.

Blessed are those with an attitude of gratitude. Grateful hearts have the ability to turn a meal into a feast, ‘not enough’ into plenty, a small fortune into acres of diamonds, a fleeting moment into an eternity… Simply put, when we are grateful our lives become abundant with blessings.

It’s easy for us to be grateful when life is flowing beautifully; money is in the bank, we find the perfect parking spot, the lights are on green and we feel a sense of belonging. But when life is challenging; when we receive unexpected bad news, our dreams have been dashed, there isn’t enough to cover the bills and they don’t love us back – the words ‘thank you’ don’t come so easily. It is during these times we must take stock of our lives and recognise all that is good, even if we must begin first with the basics; food on the table, shelter, clean water, good health… Can you walk, talk and see the beauty that surrounds you? Can you hear the music that stirs your soul? Can you love, dream and create? Give thanks for all of that, for gratitude possesses the transformative power to turn even the darkest moments into light.

Each day we get to choose how we experience life, it is a simple shift in perspective from one of lack to one of abundance. Each day is a gift when we recognise, and give thanks for its many blessings. So today, say thank you! For ‘if the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.’

In love & light,

Hayley xx

 


Spicy Thai Braised Tofu

I just made this delicious dish of Spicy Thai Braised Tofu, which literally had my mouth watering. You wont be disappointed. It’s a beautiful warm evening here in Melbourne, and despite this dish having a little kick to it, it wasn’t too hot that it had me running for a cold hose down! (Although, on second thoughts – that does sound so very tempting…)

Give it a whirl and let me know what you think! (the dish… not the skinny dipping!) Oh heck – why not try that too?!

(Serves 4)

Sugar Free, Vegan, Gluten Free

Ingredients

500g tofu (cut into cubes – I used soft but you can use firm if preferred)
1 red onion (chopped)
1 red pepper/capsicum (chopped)
1/2 butternut squash (cubed)
1/2 cup of unsalted, natural peanut butter
Thumb sized piece of fresh ginger (grated)
2 tbsp organic tomato paste
6-7 leaves of kale (stems removed)
1 bunch of Bok Choy (roughly chopped)
1-2 tsp chilli flakes
1 tsp turmeric
1 tsp smoked paprika
2 cups no-salt added vegetable stock
Coriander to garnish
Himalayan Sea salt and cracked pepper to season|
Coconut Oil

Method

Preheat the oven to 180 degrees. Place tofu cubes on a lightly oiled baking tray and sprinkle with paprika and turmeric. Bake for 30mins, turning after 15mins.

Heat a large sauté pan and add onion, red pepper and ginger with 1-2 tsp of coconut oil. Cook until onion has softened. Add the chilli flakes, cubed butternut squash and Bok Choy and cook for a further one minute.

Stir in the vegetable stock, tomato paste and peanut butter and bring to the boil. Season with Himalayan sea salt and black pepper. Add kale leaves, stirring occasionally to allow them to wilt down. Add baked tofu, cover, reduce to a simmer and cook for a further 15minutes or until the butternut squash is tender. Add more water if needed.

Stir in lime juice and garnish with chopped coriander to serve.

 


The Sweet Life

We get just one shot at this sweet life of ours. It will never come again – so live! Why waste life with thoughts of the past, regretting the choices and mistakes we have made? Why squander our time fretting about the future? For the future may never come.

So many of us choose to love cautiously when we can choose to love passionately instead. Yes, maybe we will get hurt. But wouldn’t we rather die with a thousand words expressed than a thousand unspoken in our hearts? Not only are we guarded in love, but we live cautiously too… Too often we dismiss our dreams and lay them aside for fears of not being good enough. We fear success and we fear failure. But those burning desires within our hearts exist for a reason. Life is what we make of it. Be bold. Be brave. Your dreams are real, so go after them.

Today, let us live. May we laugh a little louder, dance a little freer, love a little larger, and dare to dream a little longer. May we throw caution to the wind and embrace the life we intended to live. Because ‘that it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.’ Nothing is ever guaranteed. So don’t wait for life to begin, begin living.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?

– Mary Oliver

In love & light,

Hayley xx