Reach Out

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Too often we hear, “It’s not my problem… Let them deal with it.” It seems far easier to turn a blind eye than to reach out a helping hand. But must we ever underestimate the power of a kind word or gesture, however great or small our offering?

If our hands were not made to reach out and heal, then for what were they created? To destroy? To harm? To dismiss? When we use our hands to prepare food, it is to nourish and heal our bodies; when we make work of our hands, it is to provide for others through service and exchange; when our hands are used to lift and carry, it is to move and lighten the heavy load. The same is true on an emotional level. We possess the power to lift each other up, to provide, to nourish and to heal. So why wouldn’t we?

‘We rise by lifting others.’

– Robert. G. Ingersoll.

Our greatness is not measured by how much we earn, what we can achieve or how far we can get ahead, but by the love and joy we share with others. Today, let us not hurry or dismiss, may we be attuned to the needs of others and may we reach out. Because ‘if we don’t help each other, who will?’

In love & light,

Hayley xx


5 Simple Steps Towards Letting Go

I have been experiencing a lot of change in my life recently. My partner and I of six years have decided to go our separate ways. Letting go is never easy, but I have managed to reach a place of acceptance and peace, despite my world being so uncertain right now.

We can never quite be sure why things don’t always work out as ‘planned’. We may have our hunches as to why we lost that ‘one special person’; or missed out on the ‘perfect job opportunity’; or why we didn’t receive the recognition we were hoping for. We may spend days, weeks, months even, dwelling and deliberating over all of life’s perceived ‘failures’ as we convince ourselves: “If only I were ‘slimmer’, ‘smarter’, ‘worthier’ or ‘different’.”

The truth is, we can never fully comprehend the greater plan. Divine timing is at work in each of our lives and we must trust that everything is in Divine order.

So I thought I would share these ‘5 Simple Steps Towards Letting Go’ that have served me. It is my hope that they will help you in some way.

Accept Things As They Are

When we choose acceptance over resistance, we take back our power. That is why acceptance is the first step towards letting go. There is a peaceful awareness that falls over us when we let go of the struggle and accept things as they are.  Acceptance paves the way for peace – peace within ourselves; peace towards others and peace with our current circumstances. It is from this place of peace that healing begins.

However difficult it may be to come to terms with things, try to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. What are the benefits of holding on to the person or situation in question? What freedom can be found in letting go and accepting things as they are?

Find The Blessings

With any kind of loss there are usually personal growth lessons involved, especially when experiencing bereavement through the loss of a loved one. When my Dad passed away, as terribly painful as that was for me, there were many blessings that I received. Over time, I began to appreciate life more and the people in it. I learnt how to show more love and to be more courageous in life. I am blessed to still have a relationship with my Dad, it is just a different kind of relationship that exists in the non-physical.

If you are experiencing the loss of a job or a relationship, questions to reflect upon are: Were we compatible? Had the situation turned toxic? Did this environment bring out the best or the worst in me? Was I nurtured or appreciated enough in my career or relationship? Once we recognise what wasn’t working, we can shift our attention to what we wish to receive more of moving forward. Recognition? Respect? Equality? Love? Appreciation? Kindness? There are many hidden blessings that come with loss, one of them being clarity. Bless the past with love for the teachings and lessons it brought.


Learning to forgive allows for growth and expansion. It is often in our darkest moments that we discover our light; our inner strength and commitment to oneself. Whether that commitment is to heal; to learn; to accept; or to be kinder to ourselves as well as others, change commands for us to dig deep and seek the light of Truth. To shift our perspective from one of anger, pain and blame, to one of peaceful acceptance and awareness.

In order to forgive we must be willing to look beyond our grievances. People don’t usually set out to intentionally hurt us. When we look passed the character flaws of another and discover the perfect soul within, we become less emotionally attached to the pain that was caused. Our aim is to reach a stage where we can say to one another: ‘The soul in me sees the soul in you.’ – regardless of how much hurt and suffering has been caused. That is how we forgive – that is how we love; ourselves as well as others. Forgive yourself and others and make peace with your past.

Let Your Friends Help You

Whatever difficulties you are facing in your life, be kind to yourself. Be honest with yourself and others. What do you need right now? Quiet space? Welcome distraction? Time to heal? Support and assistance? We sometimes feel that we are alone or don’t wish to burden others with our troubles. But you will be surprised by how many people are willing to help when you reach out.

For a long time I was ashamed of how things were going in my relationship, and I kept my feelings to myself. But when I finally found my voice and shared what was going on, I discovered that I had a much bigger support network than I realised. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to let your friends help you.

Have Faith and Trust in the Process of Life

Even in our darkest of moments we must have faith that everything is working out for our highest good. As painful as it is to let go, when we surrender our past we pave the way for an even brighter future. As one door closes, another one opens. Be present and trust in the process of life.

The quickest way to freedom is to face fear head on; to embrace it and invite it in. Find the courage within you to seek what is waiting for you on the other side. And keep the faith. For ‘we must be willing let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.’ – Joseph Campbell.

I hope you have found something here that has eased the pain of letting go and helped in some way. What tips do you have to come to terms with loss? I’d love to hear your comments below.

In love & light,

Hayley xx